OK. It's official.
Boss does not like me in the slightest.
I was under that impression already, however, it solidified after the little incident this morning.
Boss asked me to produce a list of 10 of the most frequently asked questions that staff ask of me, and provide answers to these questions.
Once I completed this list, I gave it to him, and he began to read through it and make his amendments.
When he'd finished, he rolled over in his chair saying, 'OK, this is really good.' Which surprised me, because Boss does not compliment or praise me very much. In fact, a snowball has a better chance in the fiery depths of Hades than moiself receiving positive feedback from him. Other people in the company do so in their droves (including clients), but not him.
So, because I am rather self-deprecating, I said, 'Really, are you sure? I thought that it might be a bit rubbish.'
What he did next almost floored me.
He looked at me, and proceded to tear the sheets of paper in front of me.
!!!
He only managed to tear about 10 cm into them, when he stopped after seeing the expression on my face. I was aghast.
"So they're rubbish then? Why did you bother sending them to me then? Do they need a rewrite?"
I stated that no, but that I was not sure if it was good enough, because it was the first time I had ever compiled anything like this.
He asked again, if they needed a rewrite, to which I replied, "No, they're fine." He was sarcastic and aggressive (like a pissed off duck) during this whole episode.
Later, I thought about this incident and it occurred to me that his ego (that most sacred thing to all) might have taken my comment against his ability to judge a piece of writing as being good or not.
OK, however. Let me make a point here. Doing what he did, was incredibly poor management of the situation. Not just that, it was a COMPLETELY inappropriate and irrational reaction to my statement which was aimed at myself and NOT at him.
He didn't bother finding out what I meant by that, and just by the by, I have been working with this man for nearly 2 years now. I have displayed similar behavioural patterns before, because I am not too confident in my work (not surprising, considering I don't know where my work stands because he doesn't let me know where my work stands) and will deprecate it first before anyone else because I feel that it does not measure up. Not right, I know, but I'm working on it, dammit!
You may well ask, why the hell didn't I say all this to his face? I HATE confrontation, and I am sure that he knows that well enough, and uses that to his advantage.
Well. I was a little on the upset side, so I went and paid a visit to Big Cheese's sprog. We had a chat and she suggested that I document all the things that he does, so when it comes to it - if it does come to it - I have more than just a leg to stand on.
However. Boss is a wiley fox. He's Teflon Man. No shit will stick to this man. I have witnessed people try their damndest, but he emerges pristine without a trace of any stain. The debate: do I try to take on my Boss, or do I leave it and go on, as though it has not touched me at all, and it's of no consequence to me?
Plus, I was reminded today, of another thing that happened earlier this year. It was not an incident, so never fear.
He was getting married to his 2nd wife, so as his 2nd in line, I thought it my duty to get a wedding card, get all the consultants to sign it (including the CEO) and get money from all of them to get them a wedding present from the whole company. I bought a big card, which was filled to bursting point with the best wishes from all the other consultants and I managed to collect around £150. So with this money, I bought vouchers from the House of Frazer, and I presented them to him on the day he was going on his long holiday to have his wedding and honeymoon.
He blushed a tomato red, when I presented him with the card and the vouchers. I made sure that no one was gathered (this was also the advice of a couple of the directors), because I know that he hates a ceremony with lots of people.
I said cheerfully, that it was tough to get everyone's signatures (it's an open plan office) without him possibly guessing what I was up to.
His reply?
"Actually, I thought you were skiving off your work."
No comment here, apart from one word, which I feel is entirely appropriate under these circumstances and all others I have put up with.
Arsehole.
Boss does not like me in the slightest.
I was under that impression already, however, it solidified after the little incident this morning.
Boss asked me to produce a list of 10 of the most frequently asked questions that staff ask of me, and provide answers to these questions.
Once I completed this list, I gave it to him, and he began to read through it and make his amendments.
When he'd finished, he rolled over in his chair saying, 'OK, this is really good.' Which surprised me, because Boss does not compliment or praise me very much. In fact, a snowball has a better chance in the fiery depths of Hades than moiself receiving positive feedback from him. Other people in the company do so in their droves (including clients), but not him.
So, because I am rather self-deprecating, I said, 'Really, are you sure? I thought that it might be a bit rubbish.'
What he did next almost floored me.
He looked at me, and proceded to tear the sheets of paper in front of me.
!!!
He only managed to tear about 10 cm into them, when he stopped after seeing the expression on my face. I was aghast.
"So they're rubbish then? Why did you bother sending them to me then? Do they need a rewrite?"
I stated that no, but that I was not sure if it was good enough, because it was the first time I had ever compiled anything like this.
He asked again, if they needed a rewrite, to which I replied, "No, they're fine." He was sarcastic and aggressive (like a pissed off duck) during this whole episode.
Later, I thought about this incident and it occurred to me that his ego (that most sacred thing to all) might have taken my comment against his ability to judge a piece of writing as being good or not.
OK, however. Let me make a point here. Doing what he did, was incredibly poor management of the situation. Not just that, it was a COMPLETELY inappropriate and irrational reaction to my statement which was aimed at myself and NOT at him.
He didn't bother finding out what I meant by that, and just by the by, I have been working with this man for nearly 2 years now. I have displayed similar behavioural patterns before, because I am not too confident in my work (not surprising, considering I don't know where my work stands because he doesn't let me know where my work stands) and will deprecate it first before anyone else because I feel that it does not measure up. Not right, I know, but I'm working on it, dammit!
You may well ask, why the hell didn't I say all this to his face? I HATE confrontation, and I am sure that he knows that well enough, and uses that to his advantage.
Well. I was a little on the upset side, so I went and paid a visit to Big Cheese's sprog. We had a chat and she suggested that I document all the things that he does, so when it comes to it - if it does come to it - I have more than just a leg to stand on.
However. Boss is a wiley fox. He's Teflon Man. No shit will stick to this man. I have witnessed people try their damndest, but he emerges pristine without a trace of any stain. The debate: do I try to take on my Boss, or do I leave it and go on, as though it has not touched me at all, and it's of no consequence to me?
Plus, I was reminded today, of another thing that happened earlier this year. It was not an incident, so never fear.
He was getting married to his 2nd wife, so as his 2nd in line, I thought it my duty to get a wedding card, get all the consultants to sign it (including the CEO) and get money from all of them to get them a wedding present from the whole company. I bought a big card, which was filled to bursting point with the best wishes from all the other consultants and I managed to collect around £150. So with this money, I bought vouchers from the House of Frazer, and I presented them to him on the day he was going on his long holiday to have his wedding and honeymoon.
He blushed a tomato red, when I presented him with the card and the vouchers. I made sure that no one was gathered (this was also the advice of a couple of the directors), because I know that he hates a ceremony with lots of people.
I said cheerfully, that it was tough to get everyone's signatures (it's an open plan office) without him possibly guessing what I was up to.
His reply?
"Actually, I thought you were skiving off your work."
No comment here, apart from one word, which I feel is entirely appropriate under these circumstances and all others I have put up with.
Arsehole.
3 comments:
I think that in addition to making note of all the times he's behaved inappropriately, you should send him an e-mail expressing your shock at his actions (with the list). You should explicitly state what he did, and mention when. His response, or his lack of a denial, should be printed and saved, as should your original note. That is now official information for your file that you're saving AS YOU LOOK FOR A NEW JOB.
Seriously. That behavior is unacceptable.
xx ~ R
ps, don't ever describe any of your work as "rubbish." You are both insulting yourself, and also saying--whether you mean it or not--either that you are incompetent, or that you are consciously not fulfilling your potential. If neither is true, then DO NOT SAY IT.
I always feel that there are enough people willing to drag you down; no reason to join the crowd. Stand for yourself, even if sometimes it feels like you're standing by yourself.
Have the guts to acknowledge your value. You have value, you're smart. If anything, what I've heard is that you're under-utilized, which of course is demoralizing. That's why you MUST find a new job.
And don't mention that you're rubbish, while you're interviewing or afterwards :)
xxxx ~ moi
ps, very riled up. *grrrrr*
Oh, and a friend of mine suggested...that your boss might have a drinking problem. Apparently she knows someone else who has done similarish sort of stuff, and that was part of the problem....
Any other signs? Don't necessarily share on your blog, though, as it might land you with libel or something. But just keep an eye out.
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